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Child Watch® Column: "A Mother’s Day of Action to Protect Children from Gun Violence"

Release Date: May 10, 2013

Marian Wright Edelman

“My name is Nardyne Jefferies; my only child, Brishell Jones, was murdered on March 30th, 2010, by a gun.

She sent me an email; she’d made reservations . . . for Mother’s Day. And I never got my Mother’s Day dinner with my daughter.  And it’s just hard, because all the special moments that we shared, you know—I can’t make any more memories with Brishell.  And I just miss everything about her . . . And time really doesn’t make it any easier—I feel like it just really hurts just as much for me three years and some months later as it did then, because you think about what could have been, and what was supposed to have been, and what should have been.   

Enough is enough.  I don’t know how much more bloodshed has to be spilled on these streets . . . We have to come together. This definitely is not a Black thing, it’s not a White thing, it’s not a gang thing, it’s not an inner-city thing.  This is a human thing.  And too many humans are losing their lives to gun violence.”   

This Mother’s Day, Nardyne Jefferies is one of the Children’s Defense Fund (CDF)’s “Faces of Courage.”  They are part of a club no mother ever wants to join.  Most, like Nardyne, have lost children to gun violence.  Nardyne’s beautiful daughter Brishell was only 16 when she was killed by bullets from an AK-47 in a drive-by shooting.  Others have had spouses or other family members killed or injured by guns or been victims of gun violence themselves and have struggled to help their families deal with the trauma gun violence leaves behind.  All of these mothers whose lives have been shattered by gun violence are sharing their stories in a series of videos developed by CDF and Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America as part of a Mother’s Day campaign.  The campaign is focused on honoring gun violence victims and their families—and taking action so fewer mothers who are celebrating Mother’s Day this weekend will be mourning their own children next year and in years to come.  Every year 2,694 children and teens are killed by guns—one child or teen every three hours and 15 minutes.

As part of the campaign, Moms Demand Action has created a Mother’s Bill of Rights.  It reads:

“We, as mothers, have the absolute right to protect our children from harm. We have the right to know our children are safe from gun violence, from the moment they leave our arms in the morning until they return home later in the day. But the rights of American mothers are under attack by criminals, the gun lobby, and legislators who are unable to stand up for common-sense gun reforms. The right of mothers to protect our children SHALL NOT BE INFRINGED.

As mothers, we have the right to...

  • Expect that assault weapons will remain in the hands of our military, not civilians.
  • Preserve our children's innocence and shield them from gun violence in America, real and scripted.
  • Demand that all public places remain “gun-free zones,” except private homes and shooting ranges.
  • Know our children are safe in their schools: any school, anywhere.
  • Expect our teachers to be focused on teaching our children, not training to become armed guards.
  • Demand that our government create the same strong regulations for guns as they have for toys, cars and food.
  • Expect our leaders to put our children's safety above the profit and influence of the gun industry.
  • Have access to complete, accurate information about the impact of gun violence on our families and communities.
  • Hold our elected officials accountable for keeping our children safe from gun violence.”

Mothers who support these principles are encouraged to create paper flowers—on behalf of the children shot and killed every day in America—to be delivered to Members of Congress electronically and in person with a copy of the Mother’s Bill of Rights and the message “You can have our flowers this Mother's Day; give us our rights.”  The Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence and its Million Mom March and Brady Chapters; Women’s Donor Network; MomsRising; and Voices Against Violence have also joined in on a Mother’s Day Week of Action asking Americans, especially mothers, to make their voices heard with their elected officials in support of common sense gun reforms. Join them by calling your Senators and Representative today and urging them to support universal background checks and a ban on assault weapons and high capacity magazines. Urge them to honor mothers on Mother’s Day by protecting children, not guns.  

Sarah Brady is another of the campaign’s “Faces of Courage.”  She founded the Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence after her husband Jim was shot in the head during the 1981 attempted assassination of President Ronald Reagan.  At the time their son was five years old.  Now for more than twenty years her courage and advocacy for common sense gun laws have inspired moms across America.  As she says in her video:  “Please join me in speaking out.  And by speaking out, I mean now. I mean getting your friends and your neighbors to speak out, and to keep speaking out.  You have to have perseverance.  This is the right thing to do.  And right eventually will win.” 

Marian Wright Edelman is President of the Children's Defense Fund whose Leave No Child Behind® mission is to ensure every child a Healthy Start, a Head Start, a Fair Start, a Safe Start and a Moral Start in life and successful passage to adulthood with the help of caring families and communities. For more information go to

Mrs. Edelman's Child Watch Column also appears each week on The Huffington Post.

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Submitted by Daisy at: May 14, 2013
I Daisy have also lost my son to gun violence, 5 1/2 months ago , its so hard sometimes for me to function and the pain is so hard, I thank God that he gives me strength to face another day, without God in my life i don't know what I'll do or where I'll be!! Thank God for my strength and my sanity!! God is so good!!!

Submitted by Diann at: May 12, 2013
"All that it takes for evil to prevail is for good people to stand by, and do nothing...." [paraphrased] DO SOMETHING to protect those who cannot protect themselves. Use your awesome power as a female to work toward the abolition of gun-violence in this country, and therefore, throughout the world.......

Submitted by clare bear at: May 11, 2013
The tragic thing is that the gun lobby is a hard nut to crack Absolutely the measures asked to curb gun violence are sense able and needed But there stridency You make a good point about only the military should have assault weapons The ironic part of this soldiers are limited to how many rounds of bullets they carry Huh, what's wrong with this picture when ordinary citizens are not I love your posts and look foreword to them Sincerely Clare

Submitted by Esther at: May 11, 2013
Very comprehensive.

Submitted by Anonymous at: May 11, 2013
Wonderful, strong column. I plan to share it.

Submitted by Ruthvan at: May 10, 2013
I called Sen.Lautenberg and Menendez office and Congressman LoBiondo's office. I spoke with someone in Lautenberg's office and LoBiondo's office and erx[ressed my concerns and strong desire to have gun legislation passed asap. Left message on answering service with Menendez. I know my senators are active in trying to get this legislation. Hopefully those with the negative voters in other states will make an impact. We need this legislation passed now.

Submitted by KathyE at: May 10, 2013
Twentyfour years ago, a very special lady here in Omaha lost her son to a senseless gun. As she fought her way through the grief and legal system, she used her energies to help other mothers and families by creating and managing a support group. PULSE,People Uniting, Lending Support and Encouragement, provides families with "We Care" packages with personal care items and information on the judicial system and the grief process. She lets them know they are not alone. She has sat with them as they plan funerals much too soon, gone to court with families, and listened to many mothers on the phone over these years. This year is the 17th and last year she has put together a Pre-Mother's Day dinner to honor and recognize mothers and families who have lost their children. She has MS and cannot physically go on with all that she has done over the years. And unfortunately, the shootings do not stop. But Sadie Bankston has offered comfort, support and information that she did not get 24 years ago. Sadie is a very special lady.

Submitted by Pat at: May 10, 2013
There are those of us, millions, who would like to honor the children lost to gun violence. We are not, never will be, mothers. Perhaps next year, our support will be encouraged by referring to us as mothers and others.

Submitted by Pat at: May 10, 2013
There are those of us, millions, who would like to honor the children lost to gun violence. We are not, never will be, mothers. Perhaps next year, our support will be encouraged by referring to us as mothers and others.

Submitted by Charle at: May 10, 2013
I wish everyone could read this

Submitted by C. Celeste LaCour-Belyn at: May 10, 2013
On August 11, 2011, I lost my 18 year old daughter to gun violence. She was murdered by her ex-boyfriend 2 days before he was to leave for Afganistan. He shot and killed her in our home.

Submitted by Cheryl at: May 10, 2013