Child Watch® Column:
The Power of "Prophetic" Grief

Release Date: September 11, 2015

Marian Wright Edelman

Prophetic grief is more than crying and sighing and weeping and mourning . . . Prophetic grief is planting gardens of healing in the midst of raindrops of blood. Prophetic grief is declaring to the world that love is stronger than hate, that God’s grace is greater than our grief, that God’s power is greater than our pain.” – Reverend Otis Moss, Jr.

Recently Reverend Otis Moss, Jr., pastor emeritus at Olivet Institutional Baptist Church in Cleveland, Ohio and former co-pastor at Atlanta’s Ebenezer Baptist Church after Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s assassination, and Reverend Otis Moss, III, Senior Pastor of the Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, preached together at the Children’s Defense Fund’s Proctor Institute for Child Advocacy Ministry. The terroristic murders of nine Black worshipers during Bible study at Charleston’s Mother Emanuel AME Church had broken everyone’s hearts, and father and son spoke on how all of us could use this moment to move forward together through “prophetic” grief.

Rev. Otis Moss, Jr. explained this is different from being overcome by “pathetic” grief in the face of such a tragedy. “Pathetic grief is that kind of grief that causes you to be blinded by bitterness, hate, despair—the kind of grief that puts you in the class of the one who caused the grief. Pathetic grief sends you into a scale of darkness where Langston Hughes says ‘there ain’t been no light.’ It leaves you diminished, degraded, and in cooperation with the one who diminishes and the one who degrades.” He said we are called to something else. Prophetic grief can spur action and change, and Rev. Moss, Jr. urged that instead of focusing on the murderer we need to focus on the larger culture that fosters hatred and violence. “It’s easier to deal with the ‘who’ and singularize, if you will, the vastness of the crime and make one person responsible and thereby excuse ourselves. We like to deal with the ‘who,’ but we are not ready to deal with the ‘what’ . . . I think we have to lift up the fact that we live in a culture that has made guns our god. We have to deal with the ‘what.’ Why is it easier to get guns and drugs than it is to find a good counselor, a scholarship, a job? . . . Why is it that we live in a nation that’s more committed to gun rights and states’ rights than we are to civil rights and human rights? There are those who will, at the drop of a hat and less, pass another bill to arm people in classrooms and in churches, but they are slow and resistant to [support] child care, affordable health care.”  

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Rev. Moss, Jr. continued, “Let me hurry on to say I believe the 21-year-old alleged killer was born not out of a creative process controlled by God, but born into a destructive process and culture created by human beings. What kind of lessons are we going to give to our children? What are we feeding them? What is the diet we are giving them? What is it that makes guns objects of worship where people will kill you about a gun? What is it that creates this kind of climate for children?”

Rev. Moss III added that this kind of prophetic grief that turns pain into power has always been a hallmark of the Black faith experience. “The very nature of our faith is carved from the splintered wood of an unfinished democracy . . . This is a faith where miracles are not anomalies, redemption is not a fairy tale, and deliverance is more than a descriptive adjective, but an active verb permeating the soul of every believer. This is a faith where [Harriet] Tubman learned her freedom, [Sojourner Truth] discovered abolition, [W.E.B.] Du Bois discovered intellect, Zora [Neale Hurston] found her literary power, Langston [Hughes] crafted poems, and Ida B. Wells discovered her journalistic integrity.” 

When another murderer shot and killed two journalists in August in Virginia and blamed his actions partly on his deep rage at the Charleston murders, it was a misguided claim of diminished, degraded, pathetic grief. But when reporter Alison Parker’s father chose to use his great personal tragedy as an opportunity to speak out in favor of “whatever it takes” to end the crisis of gun violence in America and pass common sense gun safety laws, it was a powerful lesson in prophetic grief and turning pain into power and overwhelming sadness and anger into action. Days after his daughter was murdered Mr. Parker wrote in the Washington Post: “In recent years we have witnessed similar tragedies unfold on TV: the shooting of a congresswoman in Arizona, the massacre of schoolchildren in Connecticut and of churchgoers in South Carolina. We have to ask ourselves: What do we need to do to stop this insanity? In my case, the answer is: ‘Whatever it takes.’ I plan to devote all of my strength and resources to seeing that some good comes from this evil.”

As he prepared for a September 10th “Whatever It Takes” Day of Action and rally on Capitol Hill, he added: “After my daughter Alison was tragically killed two weeks ago, I said on national television that we have to do whatever it takes to fix this country’s gun violence problem. I know that weakening the stranglehold of the gun lobby won’t happen overnight. I know, too, that passing background check laws won’t prevent all acts of gun violence from taking place. But we must keep the pressure on our lawmakers until they do the right thing. And if they won’t, find their replacement.”

Let’s all heed and follow his example and the Rev. Mosses’ call. In a nation that has nearly as many guns as people; when the United States accounts for less than 5 percent of the global population but owns an estimated 35 to 50 percent of all civilian-owned guns in the world; and when American companies manufacture enough bullets each year to fire 31 rounds into every one of our citizens, let’s stay focused on this urgent challenge to embrace prophetic grief and use it to do whatever it takes to transform our national culture of violence into one of nonviolence and respect for human life. A child or teen dies or is injured by a gun every 30 minutes in the U.S. Why are our children and teens 18 times more likely to die from a gun than their peers in 25 other high-income countries? When will we come to our senses?  It should not be a symbol of national pride that we are the world leader in the killing of children by senseless gun violence.

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Marian Wright Edelman is President of the Children's Defense Fund whose Leave No Child Behind® mission is to ensure every child a Healthy Start, a Head Start, a Fair Start, a Safe Start and a Moral Start in life and successful passage to adulthood with the help of caring families and communities. For more information go to

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Submitted by nana at: September 13, 2015
The truth is well spoken

Submitted by Anonymous at: September 13, 2015
This message is more than truth, it is precious manna

Submitted by geezerray at: September 12, 2015
This gun violence is another reason that "peaceful conflict resolution" should be taught in school beginning with kindergarten.

Submitted by Lorraine at: September 12, 2015
I stand with you in this Whatever It Takes time. I have been on this road of stopping gun violence all of my life and will continue. 10 grandchildren keep me focused on non-violence in this violent land.

Submitted by sue at: September 11, 2015
Thank you and Right/Write ON!

Submitted by Leslie at: September 11, 2015
I have worked to see that there be National Background Checks online, private and store sales. Those who own guns and ammunition must keep them stored safely. People who commit domestic violence or harm animals must not be able to buy either ammunition or guns.

Submitted by Shalom Makers at: September 11, 2015
It seems that our US society is so determined to independently win, control, and etiolate with such unilateral fervor that we've lost much (though not all) of our sense of fairness, equity and interdependence. I learned from Desmond Tutu that we desperately need to turn to Ubuntu (I interject the necessity of participating in "shalom". May our individualistic, hedonistic motivations yield to shalom making love.

Submitted by Margie at: September 11, 2015
Thank you. This helps.