Child Watch® Column:
Love Trumps Hate

Release Date: December 9, 2016

Marian Wright Edelman

This is usually a season of familiar scenes in schools across the country, with holiday programs featuring messages of peace and goodwill to all. But this year many teachers and students have been seeing another story.

In the week since the election I have personally had to deal with the following issues: 1) Boys inappropriately grabbing and touching girls, even after they said no (this never happened until after the election); 2) White students telling their friends who are Hispanic or of color that their parents are going to be deported and that they would be thrown out of school; 3) White students going up to students of color who are total strangers and hurling racial remarks at them, such as, "Trump is going [to] throw you back over the wall, you know?" or "We can’t wait until you and the other brownies are gone". . . - Middle school teacher, Indiana

We have had many students fighting, especially between the Latino and African-American population, as well as many more boys feeling superior to girls. I have had one male student grab a female student’s crotch and tell her that it’s legal for him to do that to her now . . . One of my students from last year who is Muslim has not worn her hijab since the election. - Elementary school teacher, Minnesota

In over 15 years of teaching high school this is the first year that swastikas are appearing all over school furniture. - High school teacher, Washington state

We have worked really hard over the last 10 years to change our climate. The last year has nearly undone all of that work. It is disheartening. - High school teacher, Maryland

These were just a few of the responses to the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC)’s Teaching Tolerance Project’s online survey of more than 10,000 educators in the new report, After Election Day, The Trump Effect: The Impact of the 2016 Presidential Election on Our Nation’s Schools. SPLC says: “Ninety percent reported that their school’s climate has been negatively affected, and 80 percent described heightened anxiety and concern among minority students worried about the impact of the election on their families . . . More than 2,500 said they knew of fights, threats, assaults and other incidents that could be traced directly to election rhetoric.” The report echoed the findings of another SPLC survey taken earlier in the campaign season, and reinforced the sense many educators and parents have had for months of a rise in bullying and hate speech from children influenced by behavior they’ve been seeing in adults.

What can schools and teachers do right now to fight back against hate? Dr. Linda Darling-Hammond is president of the Learning Policy Institute and Professor of Education Emeritus and Faculty Director of the Stanford Center for Opportunity Policy in Education at Stanford University. In a recent keynote speech at the National Association for Multicultural Education conference she shared her expert recommendations, starting with a key first step:

“First, and most obviously, this is a moment both for explicit anti-racist teaching and anti-racist action in all public spaces. The ‘good news’ is that the explicitness and widespread public eruption of racist, sexist, and hate speech of all kinds gives us a direct opportunity to bring anti-racist teaching out of the closet – to motivate schools and systems to adopt anti-racist curriculum, to pay attention to the tacit bigotry that is often under the surface in schools:

  • to proactively ensure that the images and messages on the walls and in textbooks are multicultural and anti-racist

  • to get every teacher and administrator reading and using Teaching for Tolerance, Facing History, and other resources for equitable, anti-racist teaching

  • to ensure that the allocation of time, attention, and resources in schools attends equitably to all children – and that the divisions and segregation created by tracking and similar practices are challenged

  • to mobilize the resources of foundations and people of good will to tackle the festering issues that America has been dealing with since its inception – when slavery was legalized, African Americans were defined as 3/5s of a person, Native Americans were massacred and driven at gunpoint across the country in the Trail of Tears, and students of color were segregated by law – and later by redlining and other racist customs. It is time for Teach-Ins at every school.”

Professor Darling-Hammond went on to explain that there is much more we also need to do to confront and change every strand of institutionalized racism and intolerance that are embedded in our schools in order to really create a more equitable and just education system and society. But explicitly teaching tolerance must be a building block right now. All children must know that adults expect them to understand the difference between right and wrong. Children who feel afraid at school must know that adults will help keep them safe. Children who are doing the bullying must know that adults will not allow the next generation to grow up steeped in more hate.

In his last Christmas sermon, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “The Christmas hope for peace and goodwill toward all men can no longer be dismissed as a kind of pious dream of some utopia. If we don’t have good will toward men in this world, we will destroy ourselves by the misuse of our own instruments and our own power . . .”

“Love is understanding, creative, redemptive good will toward all men. And I think this is where we are, as a people, in our struggle for racial justice . . . We must never let up in our determination to remove every vestige of segregation and discrimination from our nation, but we shall not in the process relinquish our privilege to love. I’ve seen too much hate to want to hate, myself , and I’ve seen hate on the faces of too many sheriffs, too many white citizens’ councilors, and too many Klansmen of the South to want to hate, myself; and every time I see it, I say to myself, hate is too great a burden to bear.” Hate is a burden our children cannot and should never have to carry. And it is a deep blemish on what it means to be an American. Love must always trump hate.

Marian Wright Edelman is President of the Children's Defense Fund whose Leave No Child Behind® mission is to ensure every child a Healthy Start, a Head Start, a Fair Start, a Safe Start and a Moral Start in life and successful passage to adulthood with the help of caring families and communities. For more information go to

Mrs. Edelman's Child Watch Column also appears each week on The Huffington Post.

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Submitted by annamarie at: June 3, 2017
I think it is bad enough having children make those remarks but to have also teachers make those remarks about the children in their classroom, is unjustified. in my community two middle school teachers made a racist remark on face book about migrant children and to top it off the principal said they had not violated the school code of conduct. I was undignified. As educators we are committed to making the learning environment into a welcoming community for all our children. If as teachers make those remarks what can we expect from children.

Submitted by Christine at: May 9, 2017
thank you for your leadership, Mrs. Edelman

Submitted by Ching Goya at: December 13, 2016
Let us pray that we may always be reminded of the story of creation - WE ALL CAME FROM ONE COUPLE - created by the One and Only God !

Submitted by Lynn at: December 13, 2016
Thank you. For me it is one child at a time. Then size of this issue overwhelms me. All over America, in every neighborhood... I can handle it addressing one child at a time.

Submitted by jodyann at: December 12, 2016
Hate is powerful, but love is more powerful. We must teach love and we must also see that our cities and states stand up to the hate groups and use the judicial system to keep it in check when acts that are illegal occur.

Submitted by Mickey at: December 12, 2016
I do believe that Trump promotes racism and it has definitely become worse since he has been elected. Just look to the comments that were made on facebook by supposed professionals. I don't understand why the Democrats and Republican's don't demand that he remove Steve Bannon from his cabinet. Love will TRUMP hate! American's just need to open up their eyes and see what's going on!

Submitted by MSue at: December 12, 2016
This was a great article, but I would add that the burden of role modeling must be on the adults. We must hold accounts accountable for their words and actions, especially if they hold public office.

Submitted by Please at: December 11, 2016
Yes Th above statement is so true, but I also want to ask the question, What happen to the rule the children are our future? When did it start that it was okay to just think of ourselves? When did it start that children have to carry the problems of the adults in charge of the educational system? Most of all how do we change this course of trouble in the lives of children so that they will be able to become leaders of the world? We must all continue to fight for change at all cost.

Submitted by Laura at: December 10, 2016
Wonderful timely column! Even though I have a small following, I would like to share it on my blog, What do I need to do to secure permission? Thank you.

Submitted by Anonymous at: December 10, 2016
Trump should be pre-empeached

Submitted by Tom123 at: December 10, 2016
Growing up in a school with 50/50 white and Hispanic population, this is just weird and wrong. Stuff like this nevertheless happened, and if it did it was at a fey low ammount. This stuff is just sickening.

Submitted by Cbell7153 at: December 10, 2016
I have several friends that are teachers, and librarians in public school. The effect of the white supremacy attitude has startled and disturbed them. It has been like night and day in the class room with students that used to tolerate others, now, picking fights, verbalizing obscenities, and the list goes on. I am doing the best I can to battle this in my own way, but feel I am not doing enough. What has the most impact? How can we reverse the hatred released by Pandora's box?

Submitted by Mermaid at: December 10, 2016
Remember, when a room is filled with darkness, all it takes is one lite lamp to come into the room and light the place up! Truly, light IS stronger than darkness. Love IS stronger than hate. Peace iIS stronger than chaos. Kindness IS stronger than cruelty. We may lose a battle, but we , on the side of what is right and just WILL win the war! Keep on keeping on my brothers and sisters warriors of Peace on earth good will to fellow human beings💕

Submitted by srsmith at: December 10, 2016
This is a sobering reality of the kind of America we can expect under a Trump administration. People of conscience can not stand by and let it go unchecked!

Submitted by tbs at: December 9, 2016
No wlll always trump hate.

Submitted by Shell at: December 9, 2016
I am a retired teacher after 34 years. It is heartbreaking to learn how naive I was to believe that there was NO way that the American people would vote in this deplorable human being!!! It hurts to see that after all my years of teaching mutual respect, appreciate for different cultures that we have not come as far as I assumed. There is MUCH MORE work to be done. The good news is that the election of this demagogue is motivating many of us to action!!